Hopefully, no one jumps into fingering someone with a vagina right away. I mean that will only cause pain.
Whether it's foreplay or playing rough, fingering can be extremely pleasurable to a woman.
If for whatever reason your partner is not comfortable with fingering, it's best to stop rather than keep going.
This article will go cover the steps you should take before starting to finger someone with a vagina and ways you can stimulate the body for a better fingering experience.
Start with foreplay
Foreplay helps the body get in the mood for intimacy.
People tend to overthink foreplay and doing too much foreplay can eventually lead to a boring sexual experience.
Rushing into fingering can lead to a painful experience. Shoving your finger into the vagina will only cause discomfort and most likely cause a traumatic experience if it is the first time.
So what are some ideas of foreplay if you are being intimate with a woman? There are plenty of things to begin foreplay.
Slowly start kissing or making out with your partner
This one is a no brainer. But kissing is one of the basic things to do to show someone affection.
We’ve all seen movies where they start slowly kissing and eventually leading up to sex. Making out will turn your partner on and set the mood. Don’t be afraid to use the tongue and explore different techniques with your tongue.
Feel your partners body
Everyone loves to be touched in a way. Having that experience of someone touching you and caressing your body will be enjoyable and a great way to set the mood. Explore different parts of the body by running your hands throughout their body.
But also, don't over do it.
A quick tip, women loves when their partner touches their inner thigh. It will set them off.
Making sure it's lubricated
Vaginas don’t usually self-lubricate.
So make sure you get her wet first. Lubricants can be helpful in this case if you want to spice things up.
Using lubricant can avoid hurting and discomfort for a woman. There are a lot of different types of lubricants to explore today, but the ones that are gaining traction are lubricants with CBD.
Why lubrication with CBD?
Because it eases the mind and anxiety. Some lubricants provide a different type of stimulation that can give a different sensation.
Our personal lubricant with CBD can be the best way to start with lubrication.
Another thing to be aware of is that every body is different and we highly recommend communicating with your partner first before you bring any outside products during your intimate experiences.
So this leads us to our next point.
Establish communication
We know communication is sometimes not in the books during a hook-up since we just want to have that sexual experience maybe once or twice with someone you just met.
But if you want to practice for a partner that you think will establish a long-term relationship with you, practicing is a great way to build up confidence.
Learn what your partner wants and what they don’t like. Pay attention to key details and make sure both parties are comfortable with sharing what feels good and what doesn’t.
Once communication is established, then you can start exploring with your partner.
Stimulating the clitoris
So now that we established that lubrication is necessary before shoving any finger in the vagina, and communication is key before doing something she doesn’t like. It’s time to stimulate the clit.
The clitoris is located right above the vaginal canal and also looks like it’s covered by a hood. Hence the name clitoral hood.
We drew up a quick artwork on where it's located.
Once you find the clitoris, learning the different motions to stimulate it is where the fun begins.
There are many ways of stimulating the clit and this is necessary for a girl to experience more pleasure.
Start slowly by just rubbing around the clitoral hood, this is a good way to get your partner warmed up.
Stimulating the clitoris requires a little bit of improvising. There are different ways to go about doing it. Here are just a few:
- Pressure: pressure will help stimulate different sensations for your partner
- Using tongue: Tongue works as a great lubrication and allows you to fully play with different motions
- Sucking: Create a sucking motion with your mouth and use your tongue at the same time.
We highly recommend using the tongue after warming it up with your fingers because of the different types of motion your tongue and mouth can do to highly stimulate a clit.
Basic fingering techniques for vaginas
So now you know that every woman loves to slowly build up intensity before moving to more intense stuff.
Starting off with one finger first is the best practice. Make sure the vagina is wet first before sliding it in.
This should be taken care of with either personal lubricants or saliva.
The key is to insert your finger slowly inching your way in. Pushing your finger in way too fast and hard will cause pain and discomfort for your partner.
Observe your partners facial expression and you'll know if it bothers them. If they're making an uncomfortable face, it may be a signal that things are moving too quickly. So start slowing things down a bit and communicate.
Come hither motion
The most popular fingering technique is the come hither motion. This involves your palm facing up and your index finger gesturing to “cum here”. No pun intended.
Here's the basic illustration.
Once you feel like your partner is warmed up with one finger, you can try inserting 2 fingers. Listen to your partner’s body and watch her reaction.
Slowly slide the second finger in while looking at your partner. If she reacts negatively to the second finger, play it cool by just taking it out and stick it to one finger.
Spice it up
Don’t be boring and just use your finger while doing nothing. There are so many things you can do while you’re fingering a woman.
Multiple ways to spice things up while fingering can be stimulating her clit with your tongue and sucking on it.
You’ll have to get the angle right but play around and build up your confidence and experience.
If that feels awkward to you, then try something else like nipple sucking or kissing and feeling up the body.
Final words
Start slow, use lubrication, and experience using different fingering techniques. By learning through experience, you'll be able to please your partner and improve sexual health.
Expand your experience through communication and you’ll be able to make a woman orgasm through various fingering techniques.
